What's expected of a "normal" teenager?

I went through my entire past with people telling me that I would grow up to be really pretty, and have lots of boyfriends, and be married at age 18. As a girl, this is the norm. Well, seeing as 18 is only a short year away from me, I really can't picture myself getting married right now, and at this point in my life. Although I have no doubt that when I do get married I will be ready, it's not happening tomorrow. As a girl it is normal for people to expect you to have a boyfriend, and be dating around from 16-21. Just because this is "normal" doesn't make it right. If you want my advice on relationships just read the blog titled "When God writes a love story" it was uploaded on May 20th. But this isn't the point of this blog.
This blog is to let you know that things are expected of you that shouldn't necessarily be expected. Such as knowing what you want to do with your life when you are an adult, having a boy/girl friend, knowing what college you want to go to. etc. Not everyone knows all this stuff about themselves at age 14. And even if you have a plan at 14 it will most likely change in the future. Having an idea of what you want to do is great! But unless you're a planner like me, don't be to worried about the details. If you take me for example I have had the "details" for my wedding planned out since I was what... 11? Now, things have changed (obviously) but most of it is the same. I won't bore you with my details seeing as if you came to my wedding you wouldn't be suprised, not to mention you probably don't want to know. Anyway... I just turned 17, there is no reason that I should have my whole life planned out, even though I do. A normal teenager doesn't know! There is so much going on in our silly little lives that we have no room for planning. So please, we know it's a good thing to think about... But not everyone knows. My best friend for example has a plan... ish... type situation. She doesn't know exactly what will happen, she just wants to take things as they come, and that's perfectly fine. Not everyone has to have a plan. So you don't have to ask us what the plan is...
Lets face it. Teenagers have a bad rep. So many of us have given into their hormones in horrid ways, but not all of us have... We are unfortunately treated like we are rude, inappropriate, bad mouthing, shove offs. When really most of us aren't. Yes there are some who have no respect for elders, but it's more rare than it is common. If it looks like it's common it's because the teenagers feel like that's what is expected, so they might as well have fun doing it. This is just wrong... Honestly needs to be changed.
I think that's all for now... Thanks for reading! :)
Your faithful writer A J
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The so called "normal"

In the title of this blog I call myself a "normal teenager". Far be it from me that I be called "normal" I really shouldn't have labeled it this way... but, in lot's of ways weird, or so called "ab-normal" is the norm. Many, many teenagers today wonder why they are different, or feel like no-one likes them. This is not true. Everyone has a friend, and really what they make out in hollywood to be "normal" is far from normal. What is the definition of "normal" compared to any teenager? "Normal"... That's a mysterious word... We don't have the right to be called "normal". If everyone was "normal" we would all be the same, and how much fun would that be? walk around everywhere and everyone looked, smelled, acted the same. If we were all immature, would that be "normal"? Or would we be irritated with everyone including ourselves? Lets face it, "normal" is unattainable, so why would we want to be normal? Why not just embrace the amazing weird person you are, and learn to love yourself? That is something we can achieve. Learning to live with the person we are and not to absolutly hate it.
So, instead of asking how you can be normal why not ask yourself "what can I do to be ab-normal"? The norm for girls is to yell at their moms, cut themselves, hate the way they look, envy other girls, and basically hate who they are. Why not change this? Why not be ab-normal? You can already tell what is better. So, why not make the change for the better. Don't be normal! It's not that hard... Don't get a tatoo when you turn 18 just because you can now, don't go to parties because you wonder what drinking and getting drunk is like, don't do what "normal" people do. Those "normal" people will want to be more and more like you if you don't want to be like them. Everyone can see which option is better, why not take it?
Thanks for reading! :) I hope you enjoyed it and aren't so worried about being normal now.
Your faithful writter: A J

Spelling... Spehling? .... Spalling? Don't know...

Ak.... Ok....?
If you have been reading this blog for any amount of time at all... You have (most likely) noticed... I am a horrific speller. So, I thought I would tell you what my normal spelling mistakes are.

Have you ever seen the word "Throught" where obviously a "Through" went? I have a tendancy to add a "T" to the end of the word "through".... Like every time... K....? Deal with it.

Sometimes, I Just forget how many "S's" go into the word I'm spelling.... Like, Passion, or Confession, I put one "S" instead of 2... But, you get it right?

Anyways.... Moving on, I know that my spelling is atrocious... attrocis? atrosish?.... Don't know... But, if you look at it in context you should be able to understand... I have noticed in one of my blog's I said "Don'e" instead of "Don't" so.... Yeah... it just happens once in a while... So, yeah... Any spelling mistakes just take a secand, and look closely, Yes... I mispelled it on purpose were you paying attention? GOOD! That means you're actually reading instead of scanning! I don't know why that's exciting... But, it is. I voted.

Moving on... This is short, but now you know. And your life is complete.

Thanks for reading... Rehding... redding... reedin...? Don't know. Don't care. ok... NOW your life is complete.

Thanks for reading. Your faithful writer, A J. 

Life as a woman.

Before I begin I would like to list the attributes of the woman God expects from us all.
          The Proverbs 31 Woman
                An excelent wife who can find?
                 She is far more precious than jewls.
               The heart of her husband trusts in her
                  and he will have no lack of gain.
               She does him good and not harm
                  all the days of her life.
               She seeks wool and flax
                  and works with wiling hands.
               She is like the ships of a merchant,
                  she brings her food from afar.
               She rises while it is yet night,
                  and provides food for her household,
                      and portions for her maidens.
                 She considers a field and buys it,
                     with the fruit of her hands,
                         she plants a vinyard.
                  She dresses herself with strength,
                       and makes her arms strong.
                   She percieves that her merchandise is profitable.
                        Her lamp does not go out at night.
                  She puts out her hand to the distaff,
                        and her hands to the spindle.
                  She opens her hand to the poor,
                        and reaches her hand to the needy.
                   She is not afraid of snow for her houshold.
                         for all her houshold is clothed with scarlet.
                   She makes bed covering for herself,
                         her clothing is fine linen and purple.
                   Her husband is known in the gates,
                         when he sits among the elders of the land.
                  She makes linen and garments and sells them;
                          she delivers sashes to the merchant.
                   Streangth and dignity are her clothing,
                          she laughs at the day to come.
                    She opens her mouth with wisdom,
                           and the teaching of kindness is on her toungue.
                    She looks well to the ways of her houshold,
                            and does not eat the bread of idleness.
                     Her children rise up and call her blessed.
                           her husband also, and he praises her.
                     "Many women have done excelently,
                           But you surpass them all."
                      Charm is decietful and beauty is vain,
                            But a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
                       Give her of the fruits of her hands,
                              and let her works praise her in the gates.

Obviously, this is perfection.

I wanted to spend some time looking at women, and how much we really are suposed to be
doing as the "woman of the house". This is a new term to a lot of you. We seem to put an awful lot of pressure on the "Man of the House". I can think of many terms we have... Lets see: "Bread winner", "Dad", "Man of the House"... and others. But when do we ever hear of the woman? She is important too. More behind the scenes, granted, but she is there. And that is a very hard job. Have you ever really thought (if you are a young lady still living with your mother.) What your mother really does for you? When's the last time you have said "Mom, let me do the laundry today." or "Hey, I'll cook dinner, why don't you spend some time with dad?" Now, obviously the first few times she is going to think you fell off your rocker. But go ahead and try doing something for your mom, or even more than one thing. She will be gratefull, and you will get first hand experience on how hard your mom really works. Growing to be a woman after God's own heart is the best thing you could ever do in life. And let me tell you, your future husband will thank you. If you're married already, why not make the change now? It's for the better.
The verses start out with "an excelent wife, who can find?" So, obviously this is unattainable. Now you're thinking "why try if you can never reach the goal anyway?" Reaching the goal is NOT THE POINT!!! Now you're saying "wow... wow... slow down. "Not the point?" What's the point of having a goal if the point is not to reach the goal? isn't that like defeating the purpose of the word "goal"?"  Ok... In a way it is defeating the purpose... and in a way, it's a very sad thing because you will never reach the goal you have strived after your entire life... And (to be quite honest) this still confuses me too. But, The goal is perfection. On this earth you will never reach perfection,because we live in a sinful fallen world. But, we can strive wholeheartedly for perfection. When we mess up, that's because we live in this fallen world. So, there is no point to beating yourself up about not being perfect. Who is? If you can find one perfect person on this earth (excepting Jesus) I will pay you the first million dollars I get. The funny thing is, is that everyone beats themselves up because they did something wrong, the didn't stick to a diet, or the gained muscel weight instead of loosing the fat weight they were trying to loose, many other things that get us girls sometimes. My petition to you is "What really matters?" Everything in our little world revolvs around the mirror. Is that what really matters? No. It's what inside that matters. Personally, I had to stop looking in the mirror for myself to realize that I didn't have to look in the mirror and tell myself how fat I was, and how much I differed, that I needed to change. I still don't look in the mirror some days. Now, doing your hair is a little dificult, I will admit. But, if you don't see it, it looks perfect for all you know. Anyways, back to the point...
I would sugest you try living by these Proverbs 31 attributes. Just don't cut yourself down when you fail. Try your hardest to be the Godly woman, and back up that Godly man in your
life, your dad counts, don't sit and watch idly by while everyone else is growing up except for you. Grow up, enjoy it! It only comes once. Whatever you do, don't look back with regret. Regret will make the beautiful woman you are look like tattered rags to yourself, while everyone else sees the true rose that is budding up from childhood.
Don'e get me wrong, I'm not telling you to get a big head because you are a "better woman" that the other lady walking down the street. Keep your pride in check, but meanwhile a good dose of "I'm a sinner, but God has forgiven me, and I too forgive myself" Can help you walk down the road with a smile on your face, instead of the scowl that is trying to pop out inside.
I know this was long... But again, I encourage you to dig deeper into the scriptures above, keep tabs on yourself, let God help you mold yourself into the woman God wants you to be.
Thanks for reading! I know it was long... But hey... it was worth it! :)
Thanks so much, I hope this did you some good.
Your writter-A J

What is life?

             Nothing to exciting I guess... Just back to normal life. Getting my Broadway fix as I type. :) I love this part of my life! Learning about music, is one of the best things EVER! It's also extremely helpful when you're trying to forget about something you don't want to think about. Just letting y'all know just in case! :P
             Many, many times we forget what life is about. So, I have a question for y'all to think about... What is life? This is quite the worldview question. You could wimp out, and use the dictionary definition: Existence in the physical world. But, I want ya'll to dig deeper! Really think about it. What does it mean to live? What are you living for? Is it worth it? If not, What would you rather be doing? Or should you just be happy with what you are already living for?
              All these questions should be answered. And if you don't have an answer, don't fret! Just find out what your answers are. Many times people go their whole lives without really knowing what they live for. I encourage you to figure out what it is that you live for, and if it's what you want to live for, find a way to pursue it harder.
               Unfortunately I don't know all of you on a personal level, so I can't help you... But, answering the questions above should help. I hope. :)

                  I don't really have much to say today, but I hope you enjoyed it. And I hope you all think about this REALLY HARD! :) Thanks for reading! Your writer- A J

How to use sarcasm... correctly.

Sarcasm... Ah, the mysteries, the joys! The many things you can say, then say "I was being sarcastic."
This blog is to help you master the art of sarcasm, and realize when someone else is using it.

Top Phrases: 
1. "Lovely!" Basic definition: Lovable, delightful, beautiful, grand, swell.
2. "Wow!" Basic definition: Striking success, expressing pleasure and surprise.
3. "Really?" Basic definition: Real, in actuality, true, unquestionable.

Rules: 
I probably should have stated the rules first, but I didn't think about that till just now, and am to lazy to go back and fix it... :P and ya'll are smart, you can figure it out!
1. When using sarcasm, say exactly the opposite of what you mean. This is the most difficult part of sarcasm. But, it's also the most fun part!
2. When using sarcasm, only use it with people who know the rules of sarcasm. If you decide to use sarcasm places no-one knows what you're talking about, you will have to teach them the un-spoken rules of sarcasm.
3. When using sarcasm, be careful what you're saying out loud. Most sarcastic comments are meant to be kept inside, because they are not usually the nicest things to say.

Now that you have the Rules, and Phrases to use. You need to know when to use them. Obviously, you don't use sarcasm in tight, hefty, or important situations. PLEASE only use sarcasm when you are in a situation that you won't get in trouble for joking, teasing, or playing. 
Sarcasm is an amazing form of communication. One that I never use, as you can tell from my blog! But mastering this form of communication is a long tiresome path that only a few reach the end of total mastery. Please don't give up on this journey, the one you take when you read this blog and decide to do something about it! mastering this art is extremely difficult, and must be done with caution.
Thanks for reading! I hope you enjoyed it, and I hope it helped you understand sarcasm better! :)
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Boys

"Slugs and snails, and puppy dog tails." I started my last blog with the poem about girls. So, I figured it was only fair to start this one with the boy poem.
Shall we begin?
I have always thought there was something special about little boys... When, and if I have children of my own, I hope to have little boys. :) They are really cute I must say... And some of the most cute things they do have to do with cars, and guns. You just have to learn how to teach them how to use the things they like to have correctly. Teach them not to shoot people, but animals to bring home to the girls in the kitchen. If you teach them to have proper gun safety, to respect the weapon and what it can do, they will use them correctly.
Boys will be boys. If you take the toy gun, they will make one, if you take the one they make they will use their finger, and I'd like to see you take that away. Boys are meant to be the man of the house someday, if you don't teach them from the beginning to be so, then they will become feminine, and that is something you don't want. Girls now a days are taught to want an emotional guy, with no manhood whatsoever. Emotions are not bad things, and it's not bad to show them. Just usually, boys are to be in more control than the girls. To the boys reading, opening up is not a bad thing, just I wouldn't go around flaunting your emotions to just anybody.
The thing is, that many boys have been dumbed down to the point that their masculinity is almost non-existent. I believe that our world needs to stop dumbing our boys down into little girls, and start teaching them how to be gentlemen, and little boys.
Since I am not a boy, I probably don't have as much to say on boys as I had on girls. The main point is, Stop feminising our little boys.
Thanks for reading this blog, I hope you enjoyed it! :) Thanks again, and please subscribe!!! :) A J  :)